Why Do We Stay in Relationships That Make Us Feel Lonely, Unwanted, and Insecure?

It’s a question many of us have pondered at some point: why do we stay in relationships that make us feel lonely, unwanted, and insecure? The fear of being alone often keeps us in relationships where we’re not satisfied. Yet, even within that relationship, we often feel alone. So, what should we do? End it? Stay?

I’m not one to advocate for ending a long-term relationship lightly, as I believe that relationships require a commitment to playing within the team. But how long should one person continue to be the MVP while the other sits on the bench? The answer is different for everyone, but it’s important to consider: is our partner even wearing the jersey?

If not, what are you doing? Are there more moments of loneliness and frustration than happiness? Are we even intimate in a way that is satisfactory rather than a chore to avoid an argument? These are tough questions, but they are essential to ask ourselves.

There are so many factors to consider. We are not sheep; therefore, we don’t need to follow the herd or sacrifice ourselves. Be brave and choose to be happy and satisfied. If that’s within your relationship, maybe seek therapeutic intervention to gain tools to communicate more effectively and reconnect. If it’s on your own, that’s okay too. Sometimes, our partners are better suited to be our friends rather than our lovers.

Remember, your well-being is paramount, and it’s okay to make choices that prioritize your emotional and mental health. Be courageous in your pursuit of happiness, whether that means working on your relationship or finding contentment on your own. You deserve to feel valued and secure in your relationships. And it all starts with recognizing your worth.